4 Small Achievements in Travel (or How to Be Proud of Ordering Pizza) Amanda Kendle July 18 Features, Inspiration 8 Comments Long term travel is really a strange and unnatural experience. Your perspective on the world and on yourself changes entirely. If you’re traveling in countries where you don’t speak the language fluently, you can feel like a child, unable to properly express yourself, reliant on others to help you. A psychologist could probably explain this much more technically, but I have only my own experience and that of my many traveling friends to go on. Some days, on a big trip, you can feel down on yourself. You’re not at work, being told that you’re doing a good job; or at school, getting feedback on your tests that you’re learning something. You may not even have anybody nearby telling you that they appreciate or like you. That’s when you need to look for the achievements you make every day while you’re traveling. Nobody’s paying you, and it’s not for college credit, but you can be proud of yourself just the same. If you’re not sure where to look for these moments of pride, take a look at this list and keep it in mind when you have a lost day like this on your travels, long or short. © dickuhne #1 – Communicating, or “How I Ordered a Pizza in Japanese” You can start to feel really dumb when you can’t speak a language fluently. Perhaps you meet up with people in a bar and can’t express all your thoughts clearly, or you’re trying to buy something you need and are unable to explain to a shopkeeper exactly what it is. Be realistic with yourself. Most people will never speak more than a couple of languages fluently — many won’t get past one. Don’t berate yourself for not learning faster. Once you get realistic, look at something achievable and do it. While I was living in Japan, and really trying to learn Japanese from a great program where volunteer housewives struggled week after week to teach us, I had one goal as Christmas approached. We were craving a pizza, and since Christmas was a working day for us, we decided to splurge on a home-delivered pizza after work (they’re expensive in Japan!). That meant I had to call up a pizza joint and order in Japanese. Man, was that tricky. But the pizza arrived — along with a pizza delivery guy in a Santa hat! — and it really made Christmas. Huh? © gluemoon #2 – Navigating, or “How I Got Up to Bratislava Castle” Reading maps is a skill that some people just naturally have (not me) and others have to work hard at. Reading maps full of foreign names that you can’t pronounce and can’t remember makes it that much harder. If you can match up the Cyrillic letters of a sign on a Russian street to the version in your guide book, give yourself a pat on the back. Better still, if you can match Chinese characters to the miniscule writing on your hostel’s business card, congratulations. I’ve done my fair share of getting lost in foreign countries — and in fact, getting lost is very often a blessing in disguise — but just the same, there are times when you do really want to find your way somewhere. Sightseeing in Bratislava with a few girlfriends who had even worse map reading abilities than I did gave me the chance to navigate up to Bratislava Castle. An ugly communist-era bridge makes it trickier than usual, as do streets with distressingly long names, but I did it, one corner at a time. #3 – Economics, or “How I Withdrew Cash in Tunisia” The financial ins and outs of traveling are a tricky thing to manage, too. Those who stick to short vacations or just don’t leave home would have no idea about the intricacies of the credit card versus bank card versus travelers’ checks versus electronic transfer kind of arguments that run round your head while you’re trying to make sure you’ll have cash for a bus fare. So travelers deserve a “well done” just for having learned about these tedious but necessary issues. Even when you think you have the right card and the right account to get money from an automatic cash machine, it’s not always easy. I remember always having a crib sheet with me in Japan which showed the characters for “withdraw cash” for me to compare with the display. Unfortunately I didn’t have something quite the same when I wanted to withdraw some dinars in Tunisia. I must have picked the wrong machine, because despite the heavy French influence, this one seemed to speak only Arabic. Using a combination of logic, guessing and some random words from my phrase book, I actually managed to get cash out and not lose my card. “Damn you, evil cash machine.” A frustrated traveler perhaps? © ThunderChild5 #4 — Negotiating, or “How I Kept My Cool With An Egyptian Taxi Driver” Back in “real” life — the non-traveling life, I mean — it’s easy to get upset at people at work or home, tell them what you think and storm off. It’s not so easy, and certainly not so sensible, to do this while you’re on the road. There’s a host of reasons for this — for starters, you don’t want to start giving your fellow countrymen a bad reputation, and on top of that, you don’t know what a stranger could do or say to you, and how blowing your cool might come across to someone from another culture. But sometimes, it’s hard to stay calm. If you manage to negotiate a tricky situation, that’s definitely another achievement to be proud of. My moment of pride came when I (relatively) calmly talked a situation through with a truly irate taxi driver in Egypt. It’s a long story involving a mix-up with a shuttle bus and an argument over who should pay his taxi fare, but I certainly didn’t think it should be me. The taxi driver somehow chased me into the departure lounge at the airport, police officer in tow, who said I couldn’t leave the country until the fare was paid. I literally had no money, and didn’t want to miss my flight. In the end, it came down to offering him the six euros in cash I had in my pockets, and pleading with him to let me board my flight. Mission accomplished. What have your small, but special achievements been while you’re on the road? 8 Responses Hal April 23 Great advice! I know every traveler can use a pat on the back now and again. I’m right there with you on the pizza delivery. After a year and a half in Korea, I still lacked conversational skills. But I got on the phone and ordered that sucker, and when it arrived I was thrilled to see I had successfully avoided the kimchi topping. Reply Amanda April 23 Well done Hal, avoiding the kimchi topping would be important for me, too! Reminds me of some weird pizza toppings they had in Japan – scrambled eggs, chilli and shrimps all on one pizza! Reply Scribetrotter April 24 Amanda, what a wonderful overview and great piece! I remember being (gently) relieved of my cash in a small Mozambican town with no bank – and having to talk my way onto three successive transports to the Zimbabwean border and then across – without a cent to my name. I felt wildly successful then. Learning to master enough Thai to get me safely up the small Bangkok streets on local motorbikes is also a measure of success – not to mention survival. And now I’m wishing I was traveling so I think I’ll go dig out some old travel journals… :-) Reply Rebekah April 24 Great post… I think it’s safe to say I feel like an idiot, having believed up to this moment that I was the only one who got down while traveling last year because I felt so ‘unproductive’. But man! I learned Polish and navigated that country like nobody’s business! I asked for directions in Croatian! I performed complicated transactions in Madrid speaking only Spanish! And I agree – it’s a serious triumph figuring out the streets of Bratislava. Reply Amanda Kendle April 24 Scribetrotter and Rebekah, thanks for your comments, and congratulations on your achievements as well! Glad I could hear about them too. Reply Nancy Sathre-Vogel April 30 HA! I can sooo relate!! I remember when we moved to Taiwan – and NOTHING was in English. The ATM’s had me stumped for a while, until I figure out by trial and error which buttons to push. Took me a while, but I figured it out. I remember that first time I ‘allowed’ myself to get lost in Kaohsiung. For weeks I had traveled only a set route – fearing to venture off it in case I got lost. Since nobody spoke English, I would have wandered for days before perishing in some back alleyway somewhere. But that day I felt confident enough that I could find at least one landmark (an 86-story building that I could see from just about anywhere) so took a another route. Sure enough, I got lost. Hopelessly lost. I drove around for over two hours before finding my 86-story building and getting back on track. But – that day stands out in my mind as the day I finally felt comfortable enough to ALLOW myself to get lost!! And that’s a good thing!! We are now getting ready to take off to ride our bikes from Alaska to Argentina (with ten-year-old twins) and I’m sure we’ll get lost a lot. But that’s OK, because I know now that I can always find myself somehow. (You can read about our journey at http://www.familyonbikes.org) Reply Amanda Kendle May 2 You’re right Nancy, getting lost is very often a good thing. Good luck on your big bike ride – that sounds amazing! What a great experience for your kids, too. Reply Rachel Walt April 10 Since most of my international travel (so far) was done when I was a child, I never really had to experience these. And now I know that when I finally do spread my wings, I know that I won’t have to panic and feel down about any problems that may come up. Thanks for a great article – I really enjoyed the pictures =) Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Let\'s Make Sure You\'re Human ... *Time limit is exhausted. Please reload CAPTCHA. × = Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.